Yvette Cherry | 98five blogger
During the school holidays I was standing in the kitchen daydreaming when I heard the cordless drill going off in the other room.
Hang on…my husband was at work so it had to be one of the kids!
I went into the lounge room. Nic, my nine-year-old daughter was putting together the chair I bought at Office Works.
“Um, hey, what are you doing?”
She sighed. “I’m putting the chair together. You said I could.”
I probably did.
It was the end of the holidays. We took our kids out of school a week early so I had been with them for three weeks.
My main coping strategy for dealing with four little girls all day, every day is to go into auto-pilot mode. In auto-pilot, I can make lunches and watch kids on the trampoline, drive, tie shoelaces, cook spaghetti bolognaise and hold conversations that engage and satisfy my three year old.
These school holidays, while on auto-pilot, I was way inside my own world. I was far away from squabbling, Peppa Pig on TV and the dance party going on in the lounge room.
Inside the world in my mind, I was having a whole other life complete with imaginary conversations and events from my life twisted into new scenarios.
My therapist says it’s dissociation, and that it’s usually employed as a coping strategy to remove oneself from a stressful situation. She said I likely started doing it when I was a little girl, when I had good reason for it, and now it is a habit.
When the Channel Ten program Offspring started, my sisters were calling me, saying, “Yvette, you are Nina Proudman!” I definitely resonate with Nina Proudman.
I’d like to curb the daydreaming though. It drives my family nuts. And it’s not fair on the girls to have a mum who is there, but not there.
Maybe you can relate to this? Or is it just me and my imaginary friends?
Yvette is a weekend blogger, wife, mum to four little girls, student at Vose Seminary and a tracky-pants-wearing dork. A former English teacher, she now works at her local church as the worship ministry coordinator, and is working on her first novel. Yvette speaks and writes to make people laugh and help them know they are not alone. Her writing is marked by encouragement, honesty and seeing beyond the struggles of everyday life. yvettecherry.com |Follow Yvette on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter