It’s usually the last thing anybody wants out of their marriage. And nobody goes into their wedding thinking “well let’s see how this goes”. But, in some cases, there’s simply no other way. So how can someone navigate a separation in a way that’s as beneficial for everyone as possible?
There’s a few harsh practicalities to consider in this process. Things like custody of children, and emotional health of both partners. Additionally, the financial cost of the process, as well as the division of assets can make things complicated, and at times acrimonious.
If you have children, they should be your absolute first priority in this process. A productive and amicable separation can be all the difference in determining the happiness of a child’s life. One common myth that Simon busted is that divorced dads don’t get to see their kids. While it’s true that some have been dealt a very tough hand by the family law courts, in most cases, the explanation is simple. Often the man will have issues to solve in his own life, or most unfairly, they won’t be able to afford legal representation.
It’s impossible to even pretend that you can go through a divorce without suffering mentally. A good quality physiologist or counselor, plus a caring network of friends is absolutely invaluable. There’s no shame or weakness in asking for help, and it’ll be much healthier in the long run.
Money is the number one problem in any separation. Unfortunately it’s human nature. Trying two divide to life work of two lifetimes often leads to greed and tension. The first suggestion in this field is a prenuptial agreement. I can hear you now, and Simon can too; “a prenuptial!? Are you serious!?” While the classic Hollywood prenup has a well earned negative connotation, a simple standard one has a lot going for it. A lot of people will say “you’re planning for divorce” and while that’s one way of looking at it, the stress, anxiety, and tension it can avoid it often worth it.
For all of Simon’s thoughts on this sensitive topic, check out the podcast below: