Setting Boundaries: for New Mums

Tuesday, November 23, 2021 3:34 pm
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Andrea Fallon, Creator of Wholehearted Family Health, joined Mike to talk about setting boundaries.

Boundaries allow us to set limits in our relationships, protect us, define our values, and show people how we want to be treated. Some examples of boundary breaches for new mums are often from close family and friends.

  • Repeatedly showing up unannounced when you prefer to be alone and rest.
  • Criticising you parenting choices.
  • Snatching away your crying baby when your trying to calm them down

If you don’t set or hold boundaries, you can end up feeling resentful, anxious and angry. Some people don’t like to boundaries as they feel guilty, maybe the other person had good intentions. Or you may think people wills see you as selfish or overdramatic. But you are not responsible for other people’s feelings. You can value their opinion and your own needs at the same time.

Andrea suggests differentiating annoyances and non negotiable boundaries.  For example, the grandparents may give your kids lollies and put on movie. It may annoy you if they have too much sugar or screen time, but it’s not a non negotiable. But if your sister smacks your child, which is against your parenting philosophy, that is a non negotiable. We need to be in tune with what our needs are. Unless we communicate those boundaries they’re not going to know

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