Is it okay to express anger around your kids? How about crying in front of them? These are the big questions that Rory Shiner is tackling on the Dad Diaries today.
Rory, a pastor at Providence City Church and a father of four boys, knows what it is like to juggle emotions around your family.
Historically, men have been told not to express emotion as it can be seen as a sign of weakness. Rory is keen to break this myth with positive expression of emotions.
Part of being a dad is modelling a good display of emotions, which involves letting your emotions do what they do, but also means show you have control over them and not the other way around.
Anger, for instance, may be involuntary, but what is voluntary is how you deal with it.
This can mean apologising when you let your anger get the better of you.
Don’t be emotionless but, because this can be just as destructive. This can lead to making your kids feel like there are things happening to them (such as anger, sadness, fear) that do not happen to you.
Functional adults get angry, but have worked out strategies to channel that appropriately.
Listen to the full interview with Rory Shiner below.