It’s normal for a parent to struggle with the inner voice when they have a child who is struggling with substance abuse. 

The dilemma lies between two voices: one voice says ‘kick him out so that he learns his lesson’; another voice says ‘but he’s my son and where will he go?’.

Founder of Shalom House Peter Lyndon-James challenges parents to consider “what would the atmosphere be like when the troubled son is removed from the home?”.

Hear the rest of the discussion in the following video:

Q: When you kick out a 16-year-old son, where would he go and survive? I have a 25-year-old uni grad who can’t find a job yet spends a lot of time at the computer.

 

Q: When you kick out a 16 year old son, where would he go and survive? I have a 25 year old uni grad can’t find a job yet spends a lot of time at the computer.

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Q: I am very concerned about my 20-year-old son. He has been using pot from about the age of 13, been in and out of juvenile detention for a lot of his teenage years and taken meth in the past. I have tried to help him but he would not change. I have asked him to call Shalom before but he won’t acknowledge that he has a problem. He has a history of psychosis. I am very concerned for his welfare and believe he just doesn’t know where to turn. I think he may in a position where he will soon have nowhere to live. I think he is lost and needs someone to put their hand out and help him. Would it help for you to talk to him? Can you give me advice as to how I can help.

 

Q: I am very concerned about my 20 year old son.

He has been using pot from about the age of 13 been in and out of juvinile detention for alot of his teenage years and taken meth in the past..I have tried to help him but
no he wont change.

I have asked him to call Shalom before but he won’t acknowledge that he has a problem.

He has a history of psychosis. I am very concerned for his welfare and believe he just doesn’t know where to turn.

I think he may in a position where he will soon have nowhere to live. I think he is lost and needs someone to put their hand out and help him. Would it help for you to talk to him? Can you give me advice as to how I can help.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 10, 2017

 

Q: I have 27-year-old daughter addicted to meth. She is in a terrible state of psychosis. Has a three-year-old daughter. She needs help but each time she’s gone to get help, she only lasts three days at a time. Getting into a rehab is so difficult…I find that with meth, they do drugs, sleep for days, and don’t keep their appointments. Is there any medication that she can use to see her through long enough until she gets into an actual rehab?

 

Q: I have 27 year old daughter addicted to meth. She is in a terrible state of psychosis. Has a three year old daughter. She needs help but each time she’s gone to get help, she only lasts three days at a time. Getting into a rehab is so difficult… I find that with meth, they do drugs, sleep for days, and don’t keep their appointments.

Is there any medication that she can use to see her through long enough until she gets into an actual rehab?

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 10, 2017

 

Q: My dad is 55 years old. He’s been using drugs his whole life and I’m 27. He is slowly killing himself, I’ve watched him go in and out of rehabs my whole life, lost my sister to drug overdose. I’ve seen his vision circle over and over, witnessed him trying to kill himself and at a young age. I’m worried he is at that point again after a nasty break up and on the verge of being homeless. I’ve told him to ring you and he has, and he has made excuses as to why he can’t commit to the year-long program. I don’t know what to do with him anymore, I am worried he is going to die a junkie. I try not to enable him, he is my dad and I need him in my life. But I feel like it is time to cut him off completely. Please give me some advice.

 

Q: My dad is 55 years old. He’s been using drugs his whole life and I’m 27. He is slowly killing himself, I’ve watched him go in and out of rehabs my whole life, lost my sister to drug overdose. I’ve seen his vision circle over and over, witnesses gum trying to kill himself and at a young age. I’m worried he is at that point again after a nasty break up and on the verge of. Wig homeless.

I’ve told him to ring you and he has… and he has made excuses as to why he can’t commit to the year long program. I don’t know what to do with him anymore, I am worried he is going to die a junkie.

I try not to enable him, he is my dad and I need him in my life. But I feel like it is time to cut him off completely.

Please give me some advice.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 10, 2017

 

You can find Peter at the next Tough Love Seminar this Friday 13 October 2017 in Busselton, Western Australia.
Tough Love Seminar
Friday, 13 October 2017
6pm to 10pm
Cornerstone Church, Grace Court, West Busselton WA 6280
RSVP: toughlove@lyndonjames.com.au or 0451 137 757

 

Thank you all for sending and calling in your questions every Wednesday morning! We will be back next week to answer all the questions we didn’t get to and more. You can find Peter at the next Tough Love Seminar this Friday 13 October 2017 in Busselton, Western Australia.

BUSSELTON
Tough Love Seminar
Friday, 13 October 2017
6pm to 10pm
Cornerstone Church, Grace Court, West Busselton WA 6280
RSVP: toughlove@lyndonjames.com.au or 0451 137 757

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 10, 2017

 


If you want to talk to someone about a personal crisis, call 13 11 14 for a confidential chat and get support from Lifeline.

Tune in next Wednesday from 9am for more discussions about drug rehabilitation and overcoming addiction with Peter Lyndon-James from Shalom House.

By Jezamine Chan | Mornings producer

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