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Elaine Fraser | 98five guest blogger

This is part 14.3 of Jodie McCarthy’s, Amanda Viviers’ and Elaine Fraser’s online book club.

Living in lightness — physically, emotionally and spiritually is my goal for this year.

Part of that journey is accepting that I’m not perfect, my life is not perfect and that it never will be perfect.

The big lesson for me is that I am enough. My life is enough. It’s better to present, rather than always striving to be perfect.

This book has so many lessons for me to put into practice and I’ve wondered why I didn’t learn these lessons years ago.

Why did I allow myself to get so exhausted and burnt out before I did something?

I think the questions were bubbling underneath in disguise as bitterness and frustration and anger and exhaustion and getting-on-with-it.

I didn’t listen to the emotions and figure out where they were coming from.

I know that the lessons from Present Over Perfect will transform my life into a more peaceful, passionate and present way of living. How do I know that for sure? Because I’ve gone from an exhausted, anxious, depressed, foggy-brained and depleted existence to a more rested, peaceful, healthy, considered and sustainable way of living over the last few months. Circumstances haven’t changed — I have.

The lessons from Present Over Perfect have given me a framework in which to live my life. I’ve made practical changes to my day-to-day life that help me to set the course of the next season of my life in a way that I’ve never done before.

Jesus said, ‘For my yoke is easy and my burden is light’. I don’t think he meant that things would never be hard or heavy, but that there is a way of living that helps us to live beyond the circumstances. What I’m learning is that even when circumstances are difficult, even when things happen that upend your world, that if my core is strong,  I will weather the storms. And the in-between times, the everyday will be framed by love, connection and honesty.

I can lightly and purposefully in ways I never have before.


If you would like to join or follow the journey of Amanda’s, Jodie’s and Elaine’s book club, make sure to check back at 98five.com every Monday, Wednesday and Friday or view their schedule here.


Thank you, Shauna Niequist for sharing the lessons you learned.

You’ve changed our lives, and even though we may never meet, you’ve become a friend to us all.

Thank you, dear readers, for following the journey and sharing your lessons with us both in the comments and in personal messages.

Jodie, Amanda and I have appreciated your honesty, vulnerability and willingness to learn alongside us (Check out what Jodie and Amanda have learnt from this book).

Until the next book club, much love, Elaine xx


Perth local Elaine Fraser is author of the Beautiful books. For many years she taught English and Drama in secondary schools. Prompted by the desire to inspire young women to live the lives they were destined for, she encourages women to develop characteristics in their lives that create beauty. Beauty, according to Elaine, should be the whole package — body, soul and spirit. Kindness, love, joy, peace and strength build qualities into lives that transcend physical beauty. She and her husband Steve Fraser, a world-renowned photographer and Ambassador for Water for Africa, travel the world giving time to NGOs as well as taking photos and searching for creative inspiration. www.elainefraser.co | Follow Elaine on Facebook | Twitter


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