Never give up on your child but set boundaries

Wednesday, September 13, 2017 12:06 pm

“Never give up on your troubled child but you must set your boundaries”, repeats Shalom House founder Peter Lyndon-James to parents who are struggling with children addicted to drugs. 

If you missed today’s show, here are Peter’s responses to questions/comments from our listeners (make sure to turn the sound on):

My 23-year-old son has been a trouble maker — in and out of courts, stealing, breaking into people’s houses and disrespecting everyone’s, including my own, property since a very early age. He is asking for help and I am at a point where I cannot do it any more. He has abused me mentally and physically for no reason at all. He spent time in prison and came out a little bit different, but as soon as he drinks he becomes unreasonable and thoughtless. I have supported him, housed him, fed him. My other children moved out because he made life at home hell and I moved to follow them. Jake followed me and broke into my house because he had nowhere to go. Again I rented him a room, paid rent, bought his groceries, a bed and everything he needed to get himself better. He has since been arrested numerous times and is facing prison again. My other children won’t come around because I don’t have a restraining order, but I feel bad for leaving him to fend for himself. I am going broke supporting him, but what will happen if he becomes homeless.

 

My 23 year old son Jake has been a trouble maker, in and out of courts, stealing, breaking into people’s houses and disrespecting everyone’s, including my own, property since a very early age. He is asking for help and I am at a point where I cannot do it any more. He has abused me mentally and physically for no reason at all.

He spent time in prison and came out a little bit different, but as soon as he drinks he becomes unreasonable and thoughtless. I have supported him, housed him, fed him. My other children moved out because he made life at home hell and I moved to follow them. Jake followed me and broke into my house because he had nowhere to go. Again I rented him a room, paid rent, bought his groceries, a bed and everything he needed to get himself better. He has since been arrested numerous times and is facing prison again.

My other children won’t come around because I don’t have a restraining order, but I feel bad for leaving him to fend for himself. I am going broke supporting him, but what will happen if he becomes homeless.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 

With a massive drug issue we have in WA, is it not possible to get a big sponsor on board to help Peter in establishing a funded property?

 

Q: With a massive drug issue we have in WA, is it not possible to get a big sponsor on board to help Peter in establishing a funded property?

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 

Hi Peter, I listen to 98five every day of my life and I am wondering why you don’t let people into Shalom who have been in jail or are on parole? Isn’t that a bit contradictory given where you came from? No disrespect intended.

 

Q: Hi Peter, I listen to 98.5 family every day of my life and I am wondering why you don’t people into Shalom who have been in jail or are on parole? Isn’t that a bit contradictory given where you came from? No disrespect intended.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 

Pete, your life is so fascinating — please write a book. You do such an amazing job now and I love hearing the chats on a Wednesday morning. Keep up the fantastic work you do for such people in need.

 

Comment: Pete, your life is so fascinating – please write a book. You do such an amazing job now and I love hearing the chats on a Wednesday morning. Keep up the fantastic work you do for such people in need.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 

The best thing my mum did was refuse to help me. When there was no easy way out left, the only option was to change. Big respect to my mum for making the hard choice.

 

Comment: The best thing my mum did was refuse to help me. When there was no easy way out left, the only option was to change. Big respect to my mum for making the hard choice.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 


The next Tough Love Seminar by Peter Lyndon-James is taking place in Busselton, Western Australia on 13 October 2017.
Friday, 13 October 2017
6pm to 10pm
Cornerstone Church, Grace Court, West Busselton WA 6280
RSVP: toughlove@lyndonjames.com.au or 0451 137 757


 

Next Tough Love Seminar by Peter Lyndon-James is taking place on Busselton, Western Australia on 13 October 2017.

BUSSELTON
Friday, 13 October 2017
6pm to 10pm
Cornerstone Church, Grace Court, West Busselton WA 6280
RSVP: toughlove@lyndonjames.com.au or 0451 137 757

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, September 12, 2017

 

Tune in next Wednesday from 9am for more conversations about drug rehabilitation with Peter Lyndon-James.

by Jezamine Chan | Mornings producer

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