In a world full of distractions, it seems increasingly hard to be “in the moment”. That’s a phrase we hear all the time, but what does it mean? And how can we make sure we’re doing it? Clinical psychologist Janice Domisse from Masters Psychology joined Mel and Jeziel in the studio to share some wisdom and tips.
In short, being in the moment is an exercise in mindfulness. It’s not about worrying about the future or looking back on the past too much. It’s about focusing on where you are and who you’re with now. The aim is to find contentment and joy in the here and now.
With mobile phones and other devices becoming almost an extension of our bodies, it’s easy to say that they’re to blame. And while this is true, it’s not too difficult to make a conscious change to put the phone down and focus on the moment.
Author Gary Smalley’s book Joy that Lasts says life’s expectations can be broken down into four P’s: people, places, position and possessions. For example, you might say “I’ll be happy once I find a great partner.” However, you meet this partner and you still find yourself uneasy, so you think “perhaps if I move to a new place I’ll be happy.” Unsurprisingly, this doesn’t do the trick. Therefore you think “I need to change my work position” or “I need a new car or other possessions”.
The point of this is that the joy brought on by the four P’s is temporary. To truly feel fulfilled, you must find joy in the moment.
Check out the podcast below to hear all of Janice’s tips and wisdom: