Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity joins Mel and Jeziel in the studio to share wisdom on marriage and relationships. Phil has a passion for growing strong families, and is a goldmine of knowledge and advice. Phil says his passion stems from enduring many difficult years of marriage. After weathering the storm, his marriage is now stronger than ever, and he loves to share his expertise on families and supernatural marriage.
Supernatural marriage is the idea that when a couple has a Christ centered relationship, that God will be present in the relationship to strengthen the couple. The idea is explained well in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV
9 – Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour
10 – If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls down and has no one to help them up
11 – Also, if two live down together they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
12 – though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
The idea is that Christ is the third strand, the strand that binds the couple. In fact, in some marriage ceremonies, the couple joins hands and cord is wrapped around, symbolising the union.
So does every Christ centered wedding result in a successful marriage?
Well nothing guarantees success, but Harvard trained social researcher Shaunti Feldhahn’s studies revealed that 53% of happy couples agreed with the statement “God is at the centre of our marriage”
In another study, Dr Bradford Wilcox found that people with active faith based marriages were less likely to divorce. In fact, the numbers were quite interesting. Catholic couples were 31% less likely, Protestants were 35% less likely, and Jewish couples were a whopping 97% less likely to divorce! In contrast, those in secular relationships were only 20% less likely. As an added bonus, in faith based marriages, 50% of females surveyed described themselves as “deeply satisfied”
So what’s the starting point?
The wedding is a great starting point to inviting God to be the centre of your relationship. But there must be an ongoing commitment to that principle as you move forward together.
Is there a secret formula to supernatural marriage?
The secret is simple It’s all about the posture of your heart. Ps Phil related the story of Elisha from 2 Kings 6:4-6 NKJV. Elisha, a prophet, had a man come to him who had lost his axe head. The man had no other way to continue his work without it. Elisha took him back to where it was lost and performed a miracle, causing the axe head to float. Elisha then told the man to reach out and take the axe head. In this story there are three natural acts and one supernatural. Firstly, the man asked for help, a natural act in humility. Elisha then responded in obedience. the supernatural act was the miracle act of the axe head floating. The final, natural act was the mean reaching out in vulnerability.
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