Hitched: Let’s thrive on surprise

Tuesday, October 20, 2020 5:25 pm
Reading Time: 2 minutes

The last few sessions with Pastor Phil Ayres, we’ve focused on proactively building strength in our relationships. We’ve covered playing together to stay together, and established that couples who laugh, tend to last. This week, Ps Phil wants to make sure we’re the full bottle on surprises.


Pastor Phil from Kingdomcity has a real passion for strong marriages. This week he explains that surprises in relationships are in fact a great way to keep things healthy. A good surprise adds intrigue, mystery and excitement. If you needed any more convincing, check out Luke 1:30 (TPT)

“… and the Lord has found delight in you and has chosen to surprise you with a wonderful gift”

But what if I don’t like surprises?

I hear you, surprises might not be for everyone… Or so you think! For the most part, you probably do like surprises, what you might not like is the suspense. Your spouse telling you first thing in the morning “I have a surprise planned tonight” might be stressful, but if they kept it to themselves and you come home to a new boat… Well, now we’re talking!

Obviously buying a boat without your spouse’s permission probably isn’t the best kind of surprise. But why does a good surprise help bond us?

A good surprise says to your spouse that they’re on your mind. You’re thinking of them, caring about them, considering what they may like, even when you’re not in the same place. It’s also a great opportunity to show love through the joy of giving.

But I can’t afford to produce a new surprise every week!

Well, a good surprise doesn’t have to cost money. You could surprise someone with your presence. come home early and meet them ready to go to the beach, or another activity you enjoy. It could also be an action. Vacuum their car, mop the floors, do the dishes (but make sure you do a good job!)

Even if you do need to spend money, you don’t have to break the bank. A bunch of flowers, tickets to a movie they’ll enjoy (even if you might not).

For all of Ps. Phil’s great tips, check out the podcast below:


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