Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity joins Jeziel in the studio to share wisdom on marriage and relationships. Phil has a passion for growing strong families, and is a goldmine of knowledge and advice. Phil says his passion stems from enduring many difficult years of marriage. After weathering the storm, his marriage is now stronger than ever, and he loves to share his expertise on marriage, relationships, and hope.
In life, everything has a start date and an end date. Nothing lasts forever, and there’s a time for everything. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says it best:
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens
A change in season can bring a lot of other changes. One of the more difficult ones is a loss of hope. People can lose hope for a variety of reasons. It could just be the end of one season, or because it’s unexpected. There’s also an element of control that is lost when seasons change. Lastly, a big reason for a season change is loss. Someone close to us passes away or moves to another city. Things like this usually lead to a loss of hope.
What sort of changes lead to a loss of hope?
In a relationship, there’s numerous things that can change that will lead to issues. A change of income or job role, or perhaps redundancy or retirement. If there’s unexpected changes in the relationship, they can also play a part. Changes like one spouses health, a breakdown of trust or a betrayal. There are also somewhat more intense causes, like the loss of your spouse or loved one, a midlife crisis, or menopause.
How should we care for our spouse when they’re facing hopeless moments?
1. Be committed to the journey, don’t just support in the moment.
Proverbs 18:24 MSG
Friends come and go, but a true friend sticks by you like family
2. Don’t try to give solutions. Practice giving empathy.
3. Encourage and reassure
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