Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity joins Mel and Jeziel in the studio to share wisdom on marriage and relationships. Phil has a passion for growing strong families, and is a goldmine of knowledge and advice. Phil says his passion stems from enduring many difficult years of marriage. After weathering the storm, his marriage is now stronger than ever, and he loves to share his expertise on marriage, families and vision.
A lot of people wonder; do good marriages happen just because people got lucky? Well, famous film producer Samuel Goldwin used to say “The harder I work, the luckier I get”. And he would know. You know MGM, the studio with the roaring lion? He’s the G in MGM, so he knows a fair bit about success.
But making a marriage isn’t the same as making a movie, so how does that compare? Another famous quote says “a great marriage doesn’t happen because of the love you had in the beginning but how well you continue building love until the end.” You can see the similarities in ideas there. It’s not about the luck of finding “the one”, it’s about putting the effort in to make sure they continue to be “the one”.
So how do you do that?
The simple answer is: think about it. More specifically, make a vision plan. as Habakkuk 2:2 says:
“Then the lord answered to me and said “write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it.”
So what does a vision give my marriage?
- Energy and passion
- Priority centered focus
As Proverbs 29:18 says:
“Where there is no vision, the people perish”
Where do you start?
- Start with the end in mind
- Do a marriage advance weekend or overnighter
- Write down on a piece of paper key words that describe what you each want in your marriage. Download our handy vision template here
- Put each of those words in a sentence
- Review your vision together and revise it until you agree it’s the right direction
- Put it in a prominent place in your home. Frame it, hang it up, make it your phone background. Just never lose sight of it
What if you establish a vision, then decide you’re not sure it a true reflection of your marriage?
Easy, keep it updated. Nothing is set in stone (unless you actually did write it on a tablet. Paper is probably a better option).
To hear all of Pastor Phil’s words of wisdom, check out the podcast below: