Pastor Phil Ayres from Kingdomcity joins Jeziel in the studio to share wisdom on marriage and relationships. Phil has a passion for growing strong families, and is a goldmine of knowledge and advice. Phil says his passion stems from enduring many difficult years of marriage. After weathering the storm, his marriage is now stronger than ever, and he loves to share his expertise on marriage, relationships, and capturing the moment.
What does it mean to capture the moment? It’s all about giving vale to the mundane and ordinary in our daily lives. Look at like this; when we’re at work, all we can think about is the next holiday. However, once we’re on holiday, it’s hard not to think about the work piling up on our desks. To look at it a bit more philosophically, we dwell on memories of the past and fret about what may not happen in the future. We don’t appreciate the living present because our mind leaps from thought to thought.
Why do we need to live in the moment?
The best way to answer this question is with the story of Nicole, a rock climber. Phil interviewed Nicole one night and the topic of capturing the moment came up. She explained that for a rock climber, the most important thing isn’t the destination. Sure, the view may be good, but the most important thing is living in the moment. A missed foothold or a lapse in concentration can mean a slip, a fall, or far worse. While life doesn’t usually hit us with such harsh penalties, the lesson is the same. By effectively living in the moment, you’re less likely to make a mistake, and life (and climbing) will go a lot smoother.
How do we capture the moment?
Here’s three tip top tips for living in the moment
Intentionally focus on now
Look for something to appreciate in each situation you’re in. On a hot day, enjoy an ice cold drink. Focus on the sensation of it cooling you down as you drink it. Buy a gift for your spouse and enjoy the feeling of surprising them and making them happy. Go for a walk on the beach and enjoy the sensation of the sane between your toes.
From Hebrews 11:1 TPT
Now faith brings our hopes into reality and becomes the foundation needed to acquire the things we long for. It is all the evidence required to prove what is still unseen.
Go with the flow now
Flow occurs when you’re so engrossed in a task that you lose track of everything else around you. In a relationship sense, think about your first big conversation. The one where you lost track of time talking and laughing deep into the night. Apply that mentality to your relationship now. Be present, let yourself lose track of time.
Don’t hide, keep short accounts
The four keys to this point are: don’t let hurt, disappointment or rejection accumulate. Stay sweet in your language. Stay together in your direction, and stay focused on your future.
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