Graham Irvine: Building Resilience In Our Kids

Thursday, September 9, 2021 2:42 pm
Reading Time: 2 minutes

One of the most important things we can help our children develop is resilience. Resilience is like the keel of the sailboat; it keeps you balanced and moving forward.Building Resilience

Graham Irvine, Dean of Christian Formation at Kingsway Christian College, joined Mike on Weekdays to talk about building resilience in our kids. Have you heard of the term, lawn mower parenting? A lawn mower parent is someone who mows the grass in front of their child so they don’t have to step on anything prickly or harmful. Although they may have good intentions of protecting their child, shielding them from every risk can prevent them from developing the skills to handle distressing situations. This can impact them as they go into high school, university and adult life. ”

“By shielding children from every possibly risk we may lead them to react with exaggerated fear to situations that aren’t risky at all and isolate them from the adult skills that they will one day have to master.” – Developmental psychologist Alison Gopnik

Expert Psychologist Dr. Joan Rosenberg says there are four keys to developing resilience:

  1. Openness to change as to opposed to I don’t like change and should not have to change
  2. An acceptance that painful experiences are part of life as opposed to life should be simple and easy
  3. A willingness to learn from experience as opposed to I am who I am and can’t do anything about it
  4. A capacity to experience and express unpleasant feelings as opposed to I will do all I can to avoid unpleasantness

Do you have any questions for Graham on resilience. Send it to us by texting or messaging us on socials. Listen to the full chat below!

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