Does your child have a monster under the bed? Or have they accidentally seen something scary on TV? If your child is currently dealing with fear, Cherie Macchiusi from MOPS (Mother’s of Pre Schoolers) shares a few Do’s and Don’t’s when it comes to working through these issues with your kids.
Firstly and mostly importantly don’t tell them they’re silly , disregard their fear or be-little them for it. This may seem obvious but sometimes as an adult we can unconsciously brush off these fears if they don’t register as scary to us. Don’t overwhelm them with questions while they’re upset – they’re looking for comfort, do ask them for the details after they have recovered and calmed down. One of the most common scares for children is the ‘monster under the bed’, in these kind of situations don’t ask them to prove it and lastly don’t dismiss the ideas of night lights or security blankets if your child asks for them.
When they’re scared they are looking for comfort, security and reassurance.
If they see something scary on the news do discuss it, help them to process it and understand it.
Cherie also points out this is an opportunity for your child to grow their faith. Spend time praying and reading bible verses with them. These scary things tend to come up at night, so make sure your home feels warm and safe. A regular bed time routine helps them feel safe and secure and this time of night is a great time to read and pray bible verses together.
Some of Cherie’s favourites include:
In peace I will lie down and sleep,
for you alone, Lord,
make me dwell in safety. Psalm 4:8,
He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
5 You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
nor the plague that destroys at midday. Psalm 91 :4-6
Cherie encourages us to think about how deeply this issue is really affecting your child, seeking professional help is always ok.
Have a listen to Cherie’s segment below: