The last few weeks, Cherie from MOPs has been talking about growing great girls and growing great boys, but with Father’s day just around the corner, today she’s talking about being a great dad. I think what we’ve seen in the last little while in advertising and in sitcoms, the role of dad is really devalued and disrespected in men as dads are often ridiculed and sort of portrayed as being buffoons and a bit ridiculous. So there can be that temptation to not value the role of dads. It is so key and it so important and I think what we really want to explore today is that mums and dads bring different things to the family and we need both and we need to value both sides.
Dads’ Key Roles:
To create a strong sense of family identity.
When the family is less fragmented and when it’s bound together and cohesive and you’ve really got a tribe going on. What research shows is that as kids get older they want to stay part of that tribe and don’t want to disappoint the tribe, they find their identity in the family. So a lot of those adolescent risk-taking behaviours can be diminished simply by creating that strong sense of identity and being knit together. Part of this dad’s role is to speak identity and blessing and encouragement into their kids’ lives.
That’s it’s. It’s really key and really crucial that dads do this because when things are spoken they actually then take on a life of their own. You can think something and believe something but when you speak it that’s really when the power of it is unleashed in your kid’s life.
Be intentional about demonstrating your love for your wife.
That’s one of the best things that a dad can do. That’s h boys learn then how to treat women, especially women that become special to them. This is how girls learn to be treated by a man. The Bible tells husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and that’s really that is a very crucial part of being a dad; to communicate your love for your wife.
So the next thing that dads can do is give their kids the freedom to fail.
Dads are often better at this than mums. Mums are wanting to keep everything together and secure and tight. But Dads are just more inclined to take risks and throw the kids in the air and do all those kind of big great things. It’s been said that they love their kids more dangerously so to speak. They play rougher, they’re more likely to encourage those risk-taking behaviours and they provide kids with that broader range of experiences and wider varieties of methods of dealing with life.
Dads are often the main breadwinner and often time poor. So often we get this idea of ‘quality time’ and I really want to say today it’s actually not about time at all but about the quality of trust that you build with your kids. So don’t think time. Think trust, and about building that relationship.