The best way to help is to not be the enabler

Wednesday, October 18, 2017 11:41 am

“If you think you’re helping by letting your loved one who is addicted to drugs stay at home with you, you’re being the enabler and making his road to recovery even harder,” repeats Peter Lyndon-James, CEO of Perth’s drug rehabilitation centre Shalom House

Peter spoke about how families are trying so hard to help their troubled loved one quitting drug abuse, and how it will only make it worst if they don’t kick them out of them house so that they reach a place of desperation.

Watch the following videos of Peter answering questions from the 98five listening family.

Q: While we would wish break ups are avoidable, how can we best prepare/guide/support a young child now so that we might deter the desire to use drugs as an emotional crutch? In other words, is there a way to protect the young child with our actions now/or at the time of break up or new relationship, either as a grandparent or parent?

 

While we would wish break ups are avoidable if they are not how can we best prepare/guide/support a young child now so that we might deter the desire to use drugs as an emotional crutch?

In other words is there a way to protect the young child with our actions now/or at the time of break up or new relationship either as a grandparent or parent?

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 17, 2017

 

Q: My friend’s husband is a meth addict, in addition to marijuana and dexies (Dextroamphetamine). He has been living under her roof with her children while he talked her into attempting to get back on track. She has finally kicked him out. He said he will be going cold turkey, but that’s not the case because she knows he’s been going back to drugs. What can we do?

 

My friend’s husband is a meth addict, in addition to marijuana and dexies. He has been living under her roof with her children while he talked her into attempting to get his on track. She has finally kicked him out.

He said he will be going cold turkey, but that’s not the case because she knows he’s been using.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 17, 2017

 

Q: My sibling has been a user for 15 years. It tore our family apart and continues to. My father is what you would describe as an enabler, almost refusing to admit there is an issue, even though there has been so much destruction. We have put boundaries up with my sibling (not before we had supported and tried for many years), but we had to make the decision as it was destroying us and our children. Now we are at a loss with our father. We try to respect, love and honour him, but he is almost as bad as my sister.

 

My sibling has been a user for 15 years. Torn our family apart and continues to. My father is what you would describe as an enabler, almost refusing to admit there is an issue. Even though there has been so much destruction. We have put boundaries up with user (not before we had supported and tried for many years), but we had to make the decision as it was destroying us and our children. We are at a loss with our father. We try to respect, love and honour him, but he is almost as bad as my sister.

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 17, 2017

 

Q: My partner is a meth user I’ve got him listening to your station now — he’s spoken you once. His family and children suffer for it, and one member he hasn’t even met properly. He has anxiety,  lost a child, serious anger, and other addictions including gambling. Ryan has been using meth for 17 years, on and off. The last four years have been the worst — he’s spent two years in prison. Everybody enables him including myself. How do we start the process of “un-enabling him”?

 

My partner is a meth user I’ve got him listening to your station now – hes spoken you once – his family and children suffer for it one he hasnt even met properly. He has anxiety has lost a child and has serious anger and other addictions including gambling. Ryan has been using meth for 17 years on and off, the last four years have been the worst – hes spent 2years in prison – everybody enables him including myself. How do we start the process of !un-enabling him!?

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 17, 2017

 

Peter will be running a few Tough Love Seminars in the near future. Hear what he has to say about what these seminars involve.

 

Posted by Shalom House Perth WA on Tuesday, October 17, 2017

 

Tune in next Wednesday from 9am for more discussions on drug rehabilitation with Peter and Mike.

By Jezamine Chan | Mornings producer

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