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Let me ask you, what was the morning of your wedding like? Do you remember everything you did? Probably not! It was probably a big exciting blur, right?

Well, Andrew “Hammo” Hamilton remembers exactly what he did the morning of his wedding. His was a 10 am ceremony. So at 8:30 am he woke up, went out to get the paper, sat and read it and then got dressed. 30 years later he still remembers the paper’s Quote of the Day. It read: Marriage is an adventure. It is like going to war.

“Fancy reading that an hour and a half before you got married. Well, I’ve got good news, marriage is a wonderful adventure.”

For the first time ever, Hammo and his wife went on holiday without their kids. Usually, Hammo is planning family activities, that they can all do together. Now that they were kid-free he was thinking “how is this going to work, I wonder if she still wants me…”

But Hammo is happy to report that it was a great holiday. He admits they shared a laugh together about halfway through because they realised “we still do like each other”.

When thinking about how they have managed to make it work for 30 years, Hammo remembers a bible verse they read at their wedding.

Philippians 2:3-5

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.
“I remember choosing that quite intentionally thinking if we can get that right, we can nail that one thing of holding one another in higher esteem than the other, then we’ll have a pretty good chance hey.”
So that’s Hammo’s bit of wisdom for today. If you’re limping along in your marriage, Hammo encourages us to remember that marriage isn’t a 50/50 deal. It’s a 100/100 deal, you’re both all in. If you feel like someone’s not doing their share, don’t pull back and wait for them to “pull their finger out and pick up their game”. You just dig in and keep going.
“At different times we’ve each had to put in more than the other. Actually, probably more Danelle than me, she’s probably had to work harder with me”.

Have a listen to this powerfully, encouraging chat with Andrew Hamilton below:

andrew hamilton yanchep community churchBlogger, writer, pastor, backyard philosopher, it’s Andrew Hamilton! From Quinns Baptist Church, Andrew Hamilton regularly drops into The Breakfast Show to share a thought or story he’s been reflecting on.

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