Cate Williams | 98five blogger
It looks like this: you can’t enjoy the moment. You get bored easily. You are forever obsessing about the future, and what you don’t have, and the better life you’re not living.
When you do arrive at your goals, you are not satisfied, and immediately start looking for new frontiers to conquer.
Your longing for experiences is left found wanting.
How do you combat destination disease?
Some sure ways to make sure you don’t find yourself a victim, is by learning to enjoy the journey.
It’s a phrase I use a lot in my own life.
‘Enjoy the journey Cate’.
Don’t be found yearning too much for the next, or the future, or the other, or the rest…
But actively and intentionally and very deliberately,
Suck the marrow out of the present and the now.
The true meaning of that line from Dead Poet’s Society (still one of my all-time favourite films) echoes through my life today.
I try to live it intentionally by actively participating in my now.
I don’t always get it right, especially as a visionary and a dreamer, but I have become a much more seasoned ‘Presencer’, learning from my past mistakes.
When my children were younger, I would wish away their nappy years and the midnight wakings.
When I was at university, I would wish my exams were over and the holidays had begun.
When I was single, I would wish I was married.
When I was married, I would wish I had a husband who was mature, not realising my own immaturity and need to grow.
Realising a pattern, I decided I needed to deal with this ‘wish heavy’ disease, before it dealt with me.
Before my life got to its end point, and I realised the life I’d been given had been lived, but I hadn’t actually lived it.
Destination disease will leave you feeling regret and a sense that you missed out on enjoying the life you were given because you were always wanting to get past your present.
Don’t let destination disease rob you.
Instead, cultivate the ability to experience what you have right in front of you, without wishing it away, wnd without wanting it to be different.
And get grateful.
Bring present and gratitude go hand-in-hand.
Let deep heart, overwhelming thanksgiving rush out of your being.
The Bible talks about entering God’s presence with thanksgiving and praise.
There’s something very wonderful that comes into play as we actively practice giving thanks for our now.
Grace and power is released to enjoy it and even to revel in it.
So I thank God for my present, including my trials, and I thank Him that my children are healthy, my marriage is blessed, that I have enough food in my home, that my university days are over, that my life is full because I have learnt to suck the marrow out of it.
I thank God for the little things because they really are the big things.
Destination disease is a killer and it will stunt your journey.
So kick it by learning to immerse yourself in the present and practicing thanksgiving.
Find joy in the journey, because none of us knows what tomorrow will bring, and this moment is the only one you really have.
Cate is a singer-songwriter, blogger, pastor and curator of The Inspire Collective— a creative network for women in Perth and is one of the writers for Kin Women. Her words resound with hope and love, and her message is one that says you’re not alone and that ‘you can’. It calls the ugly beautiful and brings the hopeless into something redemptive. cateywilliams.wordpress.com | Follow Cate on Facebook| Instagram