Katie Whitsed | 98five blogger
One of the many things I’ve learnt since moving across the state, to a place not so easily accessible, is the value of real friends.
When you move to a new place, especially far from home, it doesn’t take long to know the friends who truly love, value and appreciate you.
Anyone who’s ever moved away will know exactly what I mean.
If it’s one thing that is continually emphasised as time and experience build for me, it’s that quality over quantity is so important. What a joy it is to find one true, real and honest friend, who you can be completely vulnerable with. It is worth so much more than 100 other friends.
Here are five truths to look out for when identifying a faithful friend and life companion.
1. No amount of time or distance will change a thing in your relationship
Time and distance are two of the biggest tests in any relationship. Travel is such a big part of our lives today, people are more mobile than ever, so it’s not uncommon to find ourselves worlds away from the ones we love most. The best friends you will have in your life will be those you can connect with, even after being apart, and it’s like nothing has changed. You pick up where you left off and it’s comfortable and honest.
2. You can be vulnerable and completely accepted at the same time
Being honest and vulnerable with others is scary but so powerful. There is a real power in sharing intimate parts of yourself with someone you trust. A great friend is so good at creating space for you to do that, to listen to what you have to say, and at the same time, accepting, validating and reassuring everything that you are. A great friend will make it easy for you to be honest and real, and lighten your carried burden for doing so.
3. You can talk about real life truths, and silly nothings and it is equally valued
Whether you’re talking about the meaning of life, your purpose on earth, what makes the sky blue, something that really made you laugh in a conversation at work the other day, or what you did on the weekend, all of it is valued. With a true friend you can talk about anything that is on your mind, or not talk about much at all. You don’t even need to make sense with a great friend, because they’re going to listen to you no matter what. A great friend just loves talking to you, hearing you speak your mind and learning about your heart.
4. They have your best interests at heart, always
A great friend wants you to succeed. A great friend will do everything they can to support you in achieving your dreams. A great friend will not only be your biggest cheerleader, but they will be walking with you, every step. A great friend walks through life with you. They celebrate the victories with you, get completely excited with you, they comfort you when you need it, and even when you think you don’t. A great friend knows that it’s not always rainbows and sunshine. They know that during those seasons where you just need stillness and space, they will be there, praying for you. A great friend finds joy in seeing you learn and grow.
5. They will tell you the truth
Sometimes in life we need the hard, honest, raw truth. A great friend will tell you those truths when you need to be told. But a great friend will also navigate it in a way that is gentle, loving, and respectful. A great friend will be prepared for telling you the things that you may not want to hear, the things that may make you feel like you’re about to fall. But a great friend will also have their arms outstretched ready to catch you, to wipe away the tears, and clean up the mess when you need it most.
A great friend will tell you the truth, and remind you of the truths you may have forgotten. That you are above all loved, accepted and cherished. Always. A great friend will always turn you back to what is true, honest, just, excellent and praiseworthy.
When you find a good thing in life, don’t let it go. Pursue it, and hold onto it, because it could turn out to be the best friendship you’ve ever had.
Two are better than one…for if they fall, one will lift up the other. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Katie believes in dreaming fearlessly and has a deep passion for seeing other people experience joy and stepping into living their best lives. Her love of writing and self-expression inspired her to create a blog as an avenue for sharing her journey in choosing joy. The kind of joy that makes you smile for no reason at all, the kind you don’t have words for — Joy unspeakable. heartfeltjoy.com | Follow Katie on Facebook | Instagram